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The posting below gives some great tips on developing
collegial relationships with your colleagues . It is by Mary McKinney,
Ph.D. of Successful Academic Coaching and it appeared in the June 6 and
June 13, 2005 issue of The Successful Academic News. Please visit Mary's
web site at
http://www.successfulacademic.com for additional tenure track tips and
dissertation writing strategies. © 2000-07 Mary McKinney, Ph.D. - All
Rights Reserved. Reprinted with permission.
Regards,
Rick Reis
reis@stanford.edu

If you are a junior faculty member, you have a good sense of how high the
tenure bar is set. Publishing, teaching and service - you know where you
stand in these areas. However, there is an elusive, unquantifiable fourth
component in the promotion and tenure equation: collegiality. How are you
doing in that arena? Are you respected? Seen as a "team player?" Generally
well-liked?
Bottom line: do your colleagues want you around for the foreseeable
future?
If you are a graduate student or post-doc, it is never too early to begin
learning the rules of collegiality and paying attention to the culture and
politics of your department.
You know (or have heard about) people whose tenure battles have been won
or lost on the basis of popularity.
Collegiality is the Pandora's box in the room at the tenure vote.
A few weeks ago, an assistant professor called me for a coaching
consultation after his third-year annual review. During the review process
he'd expected to talk about his teaching and publication record; his
Chair's main criticisms caught him completely off guard.
"People don't feel like they know you," she said. "You're seen as being
rather un-engaged and peripheral to the department."
The gist of her advice was that he needed to become better known and liked
by his colleagues, because he wasn't viewed as a member of the team. He
was completely taken aback: he'd never expected he'd be told to schmooze.
"What should I do?" my new client asked me. "I never thought that tenure
might depend on having lots of lunch dates."
Here's what I told him: Lunch dates are important. And succeeding
politically is based on two factors: common sense and self-control.
Exercise both.
Practicing common sense and self-control requires several tactics. When I
started to list tips I came up with 16 - way too many for one newsletter.
So here's the first installment of six tips.
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Remember that whiners are boring.
You don't need to be falsely cheery, but keep your complaints to a
minimum. Nod sympathetically when people complain to you, but don't play
the "I've got it even harder than you" game. Everyone is busy, and most
people are overwhelmed. Who needs to hear about it?
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Walk the walk.
Pay conscious attention to the image you want to project: mature, eager,
curious and calm are good traits to start with. If you cultivate your
sense of humor you're more likely to be popular. Anxiety, anger,
desperation and insecurity are unappealing traits.
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Get to know your colleagues by asking for advice.
Most people love giving advice (take me, for example). You're not expected
to know everything already. Ask your senior colleagues for suggestions
about successfully navigating academia. What tips do they have for
teaching, publishing, time management, negotiating departmental politics?
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Get to know your colleagues by getting to know their work.
This is an important and under-utilized strategy. Getting good feedback in
academia happens much less frequently than it should, and everyone craves
credit for their efforts. Read your colleagues' work and let them know
that you understand and appreciate their contributions. They will respond
gratefully if you provide thoughtful responses and sincere praise. Be
specific with your compliments. For example, say "I really liked your new
article in Journal X. Your ideas about Y made me think about my own work
on Z."
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Do invite people out to lunch (unless you're just starting your first year
- in which case wait a month or two and see who takes the initiative to
invite you out on the 'first date').
Because you've read their work - you have read their work, haven't you? -
you can ask them informed and interesting questions. Remember that lunch
has gone well if your colleague has done the vast majority of the talking.
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Don't make enemies with important people.
This is the most important rule and it can be very difficult to follow. In
the mystery novel "The Titian Committee," author Iain Pears describes his
character Professor Roberts in the following way: "He was a man who had
learned early in life that you cannot arrange matters so that everybody
loves you simultaneously. That being the case, the best you can do is to
ensure that those who dislike you can do you no harm."
Relate well!
Likeability is important, of course, from your first day in graduate
school until your promotion to full professor. Did professors want to
chair your dissertation and serve on your committee? Did they write the
glowingly inflated letters of recommendation that are de rigueur nowadays?
Did they place that quick phone call to a friend on the hiring committee
and sing your praises?
If you got the job, you probably had your doctoral program faculty rooting
for you to succeed. The attitude of an eager, appreciative and promising
acolyte probably comes naturally to you. However, now that you're a
faculty member, your stance needs to change. Your role is no longer that
of a promising student but of a talented junior colleague.
Here are ten more tips to add to last week's first six pointers:
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Mom was right: if you can't say something nice don't say it at all.
Gossip may get you in trouble. Listen, but don't contribute, to
colleague-bashing. Take mom's advice and keep mum.
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Be a good listener.
The rules of collegiality are similar to the rules of dating. A
conversation has gone well when the other person has done most of the
talking. Don't confide secrets and antipathies until you know which
colleagues are completely trustworthy and discrete (and this can take
years). A good rule of thumb is to reveal no more than is revealed to you.
Don't spill your guts too early. Take this advice one step further, and
strive to be your colleagues' confidant (without getting caught in the
middle of turf wars and popularity struggles.) Over time, people will
share sensitive information with you when you listen empathetically and
keep secrets confidential. It's good to know sensitive information.
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Give positive feedback publicly.
Sometimes, make your concrete, focused compliments in front of a third
party (such as right before a faculty meeting begins). Remember tip number
four about reading your colleagues' work? After reading their latest
articles, you're planning to share specific, appreciative comments. Make
them public when appropriate. There's no need to fawn - you're letting
your colleagues know the ways in which their work has an impact on your
thinking. People will sniff out an apple-polishing fake, so make sure that
any praise is genuine. Congratulate peers for winning awards, getting
grants, and other successes. Gracious self-confidence is appealing.
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Seek out mentors.
Everyone longs for expert guidance and it is clear that the careers of
academics with devoted mentors proceed more smoothly. Finding a mentor is
more likely to happen if you're reaching out via your practice of
collegiality. Don't expect an uber-mentor: it is more likely that guidance
will come from many sources in a variety of forms. One member of your
department will explain the history of the political divisions within the
department (the theorists vs. the methodologists; the empirical vs. the
qualitative researchers, etc.). Another may be willing to read your
manuscripts (and you should jump at this opportunity).
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Find a likeable side of everyone.
Look for things you like and respect about your colleagues - even if you
have to dig deep to find something appealing. People like people who like
them. Even the strident curmudgeon with detestable politics may be a
dog-lover or know a great lasagna recipe.
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Leave your door open.
Friendly availability is highly valued in most departments. Avoid campus
when you need to write, and reserve tasks that require less focus for your
office. Check your email in the department, then escape with your laptop
for an hour of rough drafting. It's a good sign when people stick their
heads in to chat, so stop looking at your watch.
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Don't talk too much at meetings.
Everyone respects those wise souls whose group comments are thoughtful,
occasional and succinct. If there are 10 people at the meeting, make sure
that you speak less than one tenth of the time. Ask good questions. Don't
pontificate. Most rational humans hate meetings; so don't make them longer
than necessary.
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Make friends.
If you're lucky, you'll develop one or two true friends in the department,
folks with whom you can share your frustrations and anxieties. However, it
is important to seek out friends who are outside the 'family' - especially
if it is dysfunctional. It takes time and effort to make friends outside
the University, but it is essential to your mental health. Make it a
priority to join a yoga class, running group, pottery course or another
activity you feel like you don't have time to pursue.
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Don't get angry: get tenure.
If your department is a deep and venom-filled snake pit, suck it up or get
out. One of my clients with a prestigious position is coping with a batch
of particularly arrogant and narcissistic colleagues. She uses me as her
outlet for complaints and co-strategist for political battles. Having a
ventilation system helps her stay focused on her work. We spend some of
our time fantasizing about the stinging retorts she'll give once she has
tenure. We spend time planning her fifth year job hunt. She's started a
diary to collect her most outrageous stories of these professors' perfidy.
A truly horrid department is a good reason to look for another job sooner
rather than later, no matter how prestigious your program or the
university.
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Finally, realize that no one can follow all these rules!
We all show bad judgment, make social gaffes and occasionally lose our
self-control. Moving on after mistakes, rather than obsessing endlessly,
is one of the hallmarks of a successful academic.
You can do it!

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